The Basic White Girl (and Non-White Girl) Conundrum: The Most Anti-feminist Thing This Feminist Will Ever Write

This is not about race. This is not in defense of “white privilege”. This has nothing to do with that. This has to do with women.

There is this fad of hating white people in general but the favorite subject of ridicule is the white girl. You’ve seen the hashtags floating around about white girl problems, and even the offensive basic white girl slogan. I’m not here to talk about race and get defensive, I’m here to talk about a gender issue. Society is laughing at this white girl and, like women always have, she is laughing it off and saying “Well, I guess this is my place in society and everyone is going to abuse me for it.” Like always, the modern day white girl is being abused. She is not being abused because she is white though. Like I said, this is not about race. She is being abused because she has adhered to the societal and traditional roles of Puritan America. Let me explain.

 

Brunch. Starbucks. Leggings. Ugs. Cool weather. October. Oh, very white girl.

This girl likes brunch because her day starts either at 6am or before. She wakes up, makes her kids breakfast and lunch, packs them up, cleans up the kitchen and takes them to school. She may do the shopping then. By the time she has a breather, she’s been up for about 4 or 5 hours and is hungry. It’s 10am. It’s brunch time. She calls up her friends and they get together because the life of a basic white girl is lonely. The house is empty and she’s working alone. Starbucks because she is tired and there is one on every corner. Her life operates on convenience. And Starbucks tastes good. She loves that one little pleasure she has in her lonely, busy life and you are laughing at her trying to find happiness. Leggings and Ugs because they are fast, easy, and she can move in them–dash to save the baby, run around the store to gather all her family needs. Cool weather because she works hard, physically, and is hot all the time. She is moving, stressed. So yeah, she likes it when things cool down for her.

Like I said, this is not just a white girl problem, but even women of other races who are adhering to this role are getting flack for it and told they are a “basic white girl”, which is supposed to be a really rude insult to those not of the white variety. You are telling the women who raise the future of this country that they are basic and stupid and less valuable because they enjoy these things, when all they are doing is what they were trained to do.

Women are finding it hard to break out into the workforce and I know we’ve come a LONG way since the 20s and even the 60s. But the fact that a phrase like “basic white girl” even exists and is meant to be mean shows that we still have a long way to go. Some women have laughed it off and even learned to apply the phrase to themselves, but honestly, it’s a form of defense. “Haha, yeah,” she laughs nervously, “I’m so basic” and sips her PSL. But inside she wonders why you have to call her that and what she did wrong. As Thomas Moore said, why do you educate people in a certain way then condemn them for the way they live out that education? These women are doing their best and people have the nerve to laugh at them and devalue them?

The hand that rocks the cradle rules the world. But we can’t let women know that, can we? No, they must be laughed at, and put down. Told they are basic and not important. God bless the women who fill this role and do it with grace, because the rest of you aren’t.

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